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A minute to breathe

Box breathing: breathe in for a count of four, hold for four, breathe out for four and hold again. Four rounds, a little over a minute.

Breathe in

Round 1 of 4

Basic emotion

Sadness

Sadness comes when we lose something: a person, a hope, the life we were used to. It slows us down, turns attention inward and helps us live through the loss, and it signals to others that we need support. If sadness lasts for weeks and takes the joy out of everything, it is worth seeing a specialist.

From mild to intense

  1. Pensiveness

    Mild

    What it signals

    A quiet contemplative state. Important thoughts and meanings often come to life here.

    What to do with it

    Don't fill pensiveness with scrolling. Pick up a notebook and write what comes, with no aim to make it pretty. Pensiveness is a draft for the soul.

  2. Sadness

    Base

    What it signals

    It speaks of the value of what left or didn't happen. Protects you from being shallow about what matters.

    What to do with it

    Don't drown sadness in entertainment right away. Give it 15 minutes a day: sit, stay quiet, listen to soft music. Often that's enough for it not to accumulate.

  3. Grief

    Intense

    What it signals

    The response to a meaningful loss: a person, a role, a chapter of life, a version of yourself. One of the most honest emotions.

    What to do with it

    Grief isn't solved, it's lived. Don't rush yourself and don't believe the timelines of “this should have passed by now.” You need tears, the body, the attention of loved ones or a therapist.

The opposite emotion

Across the wheel stands joy. Opposite feelings are hard to feel at the same time, and one often helps make sense of the other.