Gifts
Love you can hold in your hands.
Want to know which love language you speak? Twenty pairs of statements, about three minutes.
For you, love is a sign that someone thought of you while you were apart. Price has nothing to do with it: a pebble from the beach or your favourite chocolate can mean more than something expensive. A gift is proof of attention you can hold. That is why a forgotten birthday hurts, not because of the missing present, but because nobody remembered you.
What fills you up
- Small things for no reason
- Gifts that show you are known
- Surprises for important dates
- Something brought back from a trip
- Something handmade
What hurts
- Forgotten holidays and dates
- A gift given just to tick a box
- Indifference to the gifts you give
- Being told you are too materialistic
How to ask for it
Don't be shy about saying it matters to you: it is not greed, it is the way you feel loved. You can keep a shared wish list, or simply say: “I love it when you bring me something small, just because.”
If someone close to you speaks this language
Remember what they mention in passing and give it to them a month later. Don't come back from a trip empty-handed. Keep the important dates in your calendar. What matters in a gift is the thought, not the price, but the thought has to show.
Talk about your relationship
Relationships are one of the main themes of my practice. If there is a lot of misunderstanding in a couple, it can be worked through in a session, on your own or together with your partner.
This questionnaire is based on Gary Chapman's book “The Five Love Languages” (1992) and is not the author's official test. Research on love languages is mixed: studies confirm that people express and notice love in different ways, but not that matching languages make a couple happier. Take the result as a reason to talk, not as a rule.